oh tumblr.

so apparently I triggered someone by telling them to fuck off?

um, do these people leave the house? like, ever?

and am I wrong in suspecting that sometimes this kind of thing is an attempt at “winning” an argument via emotional manipulation?

because no, sorry. If you are going to be triggered by people having equally strongly-worded reactions to your strongly-worded opinions, maybe you shouldn’t be putting those opinions on the internet. There is something to be said here for self-care. And, you know, going outside.

also: being a queer lady into heavy metal and from a small town means that I have experienced a lot of queerphobic bullshit, so I’m not sorry that I don’t give a fuck about the special snowflake status you think your low/nonexistent libido confers on you. Probably the people who told me to kill myself as a teenager don’t care about that shit either.

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Kritik der populären Vernunft: {Content warning: anti-ace brigade, anti-asexual prejudice, anti-demi prejudice, white privilege, mention of corrective...

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Furthermore, in no way is asexuality an oppression. I don’t care how the fuck you define it, but being someone who is not sexually active is actually the desired society in this fucked up world. In this sexist world, women…

Guess what, asshole? Two can play at this “false identity” game.

I, too, used to think I was bisexual. When I found out that non-binary people exist—-around the same time I realized I was a genderqueer myself—-I started to identify as pansexual. Later, I began a relationship with someone, and somewhere down the line, I started to become significantly distressed because of my lack of sexual performance (as did he). For a good chunk of time, I was extremely depressed, and I obsessively researched any sexual disorder I could think of. I had considered that I might be asexual, but I didn’t think I was because I didn’t know that asexuals could be romantically and aesthetically attracted to people, and I didn’t know gray-A people existed. When I finally did turn to AVEN for answers, I gradually realized that I was definitely gray-A and panromantic. Although I liked sex, my problems stemmed from the fact that I wasn’t having sex for the same reasons that sexuals do, so my partner would often wonder if he wasn’t attractive enough, and I just thought I was some kind of freak. If people on the asexual spectrum had been widely considered to be queer at the time, even to the extent that they are now, I probably wouldn’t have had this painful experience. I would not have had to wonder what the fuck was wrong with me for so long and be as depressed as I was. So fuck you and your exclusivity. It’s because of queers like you that I had this experience, that others with a queer romantic orientation have this experience. There’s an equal chance that teens who currently identify with a sexual queer label are actually ace. I can’t imagine if I had thought I was gay and sexual, but I was actually an aromantic asexual. Obviously, many people really are queer and sexual, but the point is that you’re making false, ageist, anti-ace assumptions that can just as easily be flipped around. I won’t even bother with the “ace people aren’t oppressed” shit, because others have already thoroughly pwned you in that regard.

P.S. Thanks for leaving out gray-A people. Contrary to seemingly popular belief, not all gray-A people are demisexual. Nope, I’m hugely aesthetically and/or romantically attracted to a bunch of random people, but not sexually attracted to anyone at any point. But I would have sex with these same people if given the chance, because I like to look at and touch people’s bodies, and I like to be romantic. I also have a fetish that is unrelated to people. OMGWTFBBQ.